If things get heated, whoever needs space can take it, with the understanding it's to cool off. Whoever leaves ought to contact the one left behind within two hours, either to say he is ready to continue the discussion or that he needs more time.
That way it doesn't feel like abandonment, and there is a clear time expectation. No one is left hanging.
I imagine both of us may break some of these rules at first while we're learning to adjust. Consequences ought to be simple and straightforward. If the rules are broken, the fight stops. Right then. Until the one who lost his temper can rein it in and try again.
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That way it doesn't feel like abandonment, and there is a clear time expectation. No one is left hanging.
I imagine both of us may break some of these rules at first while we're learning to adjust. Consequences ought to be simple and straightforward. If the rules are broken, the fight stops. Right then. Until the one who lost his temper can rein it in and try again.